Does Your Subconscious Mind Secretly Crave Failure?

How Do You Identify?

We ask because your personal challenges may sometimes manifest a little differently depending on this.

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Men tend to measure their success differently compared to women.Growing up, how important was it for you to get good grades in school?

Incredibly important. I was self-motivated and strived for all A’s.

Somewhat important. I doubted my abilities at one point or another.

Not that important. I wanted to succeed, but I’d often find myself putting things off until the last minute.

You’ve been taught that failure is unacceptable. However, according to Psychology Today, failure is an essential part of success.How does this impact your approach to achieving new goals?

I set big, audacious goals. Once I have a goal in mind, I make a detailed plan and take consistent, daily action towards my goal.

I typically have a lot going on, so I tend to put off exploring new projects or goals so I can focus on one thing at a time.

Starting something new is a bit intimidating for me, but when I do, I tend to seek validation from others before I pursue a new goal or project.

You are diligent with your goals and want to do your best. This attitude may result in others recognising and commenting on your achievements. Science shows that men react to compliments differently than women. If someone gives you a compliment, how do you react?

I thank the person and feel validated and proud of my accomplishments.

I smile and say thanks, but oftentimes get a bit uncomfortable and question their intentions.

I deflect the compliment to someone else. I don’t necessarily feel like I need or want compliments.

You’re motivated by external validation, as well as internal validation. You enjoy receiving credit when you’ve done a good job. This feeling also impacts how you interact with new people. When a friend invites you to a party or gathering where you don’t know many people, how would you respond?

I normally will decline. I don’t think anyone new will like me that much, so I would rather just stay home.

I tell them I’ll think about it, but I tend to wait until the last minute to decide.

I happily accept! I love meeting new people and doing new things!

You may struggle with meeting new people because it requires you to step out of your comfort zone. This feeling may impact how you deal with new confrontation as well. When facing a challenge with another person at work or at home, how do you react?

I want to solve the issue right away. I take the initiative to tackle the challenge head on and learn from the experience.

I avoid confrontation if possible. I’m not usually the first person to bring an issue up in hopes it will resolve on its own.

I feel extremely uncomfortable with confrontation and question if I’m right. I usually need advice and support from my loved ones before I take any action.

You are confident in your ability to get things done and rely mostly on your own opinions or beliefs. How does this impact your ability to make a big decision (either professionally or personally)?

I often get pretty nervous and will usually choose the decision that a majority of my friends and family think is best.

I put the decision off because I’m scared of how the outcome will impact my life and relationships.

I make an extensive pro and con list and choose what’s best for me.

Your decisions are greatly influenced by your friends and family. Do you have any hobbies or passions just for yourself?

I feel like I’m not that great at anything in particular, but enjoy spending time with friends and family.

I absolutely love diving into new hobbies and projects.

I’ve pursued a few different passions, but always seem to get distracted and struggle to stay consistent.