Natalie: Today on the show, I'm speaking with Jeanie Cisco-Meth. Now, Jeannie has, is an Ultimate Success Masterclass graduate and she has an amazing new book called, bully proofing your life. So to find out all about that, stay tuned. (music intro) Hi, I'm Natalie Ledwell and this is the Inspiration Show. And today, my special guest is Jeanie Cisco-Meth. How are you Jeanie?

Jeanie: Hi. I'm fabulous. Thanks for asking.

N: Now, Jeanie has a very inspiring story. Actually, I know Jeanie, I initially met her through the Ultimate Success Masterclass. She's a graduate of that and she has written a book, which is actually going to be helping a lot of people and it's talking a lot about her personal experience which is fantastic. Why don't we start, first of all, Jeanie, your background.

J: Okay.

N: And your story.

J: Thank you very much. It was very difficult to write my story because you had to revisit pain. And I had a lot of pain from elementary school, junior high and in the high school, I had a lot of learning disability, and I'm very different. I'm very tall. So I kind of stood out, I couldn't blend into the crowd and I became the target because of my learning disabilities and problems and they told me that I wouldn't make it through high school, long along gone to college. And I did, I went on to college, I became a teacher. And as a teacher, I saw from afar the problems that bullying can cause and I decided to do something about it. It's why I created a program called, bully proofing you, and then I wrote a book, and I watched it change lives and that's neat, that's really cool.

N: Yeah. It's such an issue at the moment isn't it and it's kind of the reason why we're working on the new generation mind movies, which is for the younger generation. But as a child, what are some of the things that you felt or the pain that you felt that you really think affected you moving forward in life?

J: I think the biggest thing was fear. And we can allow fear to hold us back, or we could use fear to motivate us, and if I continually shrink back from fear, I would become smaller, smaller, smaller. God created me to be big, to live big just like you say and so if I face that fear and move through it, and I continue to increase. And I think that's one of the biggest things that we need to know, is move through that fear.

N: Yeah, absolutely. Now, I agree. And I think we all have our own fears and we all have faced our own challenges, so you went to college and became a teacher but that's not the end of your work career, you've got quite an interesting journey. Tell us a little bit more about that.

J: I was a single parent. When I was going to college, it was very difficult. Money was very tight. I worked three jobs and I was also attending school full time and I was a single parent. But I knew if I could just keep pushing through, if I could just make it that our life would be totally different. I would, that was before mind movies, so I made my own mind movie. And I would drive up to the capital and look at the houses and go, I want to be here someday, and it would help push me. Then when I start feeling complacent or like, this is okay, this is not so bad we just have a little tiny apartment, we were homeless for a while, so an apartment was much better than being homeless.

N: Yeah.

J: But I'd start getting complacent and begin, this is okay. And then I'd go drive around through Magna or by Pioneer crossing, which is a high incident of homeless people and I thought, no, it's not good enough. We need to keep moving forward, keep trying to get better. And so, through those hard times, that fear, that I'm never going to make it, one more F (4:15), that's what I would use, I would use those things to inspire me, to keep me moving forward.

N: Yeah. Cool. Awesome. So tell me, what was the motivation behind running your book?

J: To help people.

N: Yeah.

J: To help people. It kills me in my heart every time I hear another person committing suicide or another person whiplashing out in a horrible way, and there's no reason for it. There's no reason for people to feel bad. There's no reason for that pain. It has to stop. It has to stop.

N: Yeah.

J: I was scared to death to write a book. When I first, when people first start to approach me, you've got to write a book, you've got to reach more people. I'd say, oh no, oh no (laughing).

N: (laughing)

J: And all those fears from elementary school and junior high, high school, even in college, people made fun of what I wrote and facing those fears every day when I would sit down on my computer and I would say, no, no, and I'd remember the pain. The pain has to stop. And that would help me type a little bit longer (laughing).

N: Yeah, I know. I also find that most people when they are hurtful, when they are judgemental, often they are coming from a source of pain themselves.

J: Right. Yes.

N: And most of them don't realize, and you know, their judgements are really from past programming or past environment on how they are supposed to think or how they are supposed to act. (fillers) Sometimes when you're coming from that point of view, well they're kind of (5:57), obviously, it's you, you know. So, tell me about the lessons that you've talked about in the book that you have found that's going to be helpful to other people (6:07).

J: Okay. I wanted to address Chapters 4 to 7 talking exactly about the pain that you're talking about.

N: Yeah.

J: Look at where they're coming from. And I remember Amanda Dixon, she's on KSL radio here, and she came in and talked to all of us teachers, and she talked about how she has received hate mail. But I was like, what? Are you serious? Amanda Dixon receiving hate mail? But it was at a point where I was realizing that people are lashing out because of their pain, either at home, either they're being abused. I spend quite a little bit of time talking about (6:43) after, talking about realizing where this person's coming from. It is not you. And I think that's one of the hardest lessons that a person who is being bullied remembers. It's hard to remember that. It's not me, it's them. And so there are some exercises that you can do to remind yourself, hey, you know, it's not me, it's them. I believe in myself. I know I am strong. I know that I'm valuable. This person is feeling bad. And you know, if you think you're up, everything is going good, everything feels great, you could never hurt anybody. You just couldn't hurt anybody. And then think of a day when things are going bad and it is not going the way you want, and you just, you hurt. And you just want, so easy, you could see people lashing out because they hurt. So I think a big part of educating people who are victims of bullying is to remind them it's not about you. It's not personal. They see you in a position they want to be in. May be your life is so much better, may be your grades are better, may be you're better looking than them, who knows, but it's not you, it's them or how they see you.

N: Yeah. Yeah. Better looking in you know, your opinion. (Laughing)

J: Right. Exactly. (Laughing) It's always their opinion.

N: Right. So how do you approach children with this message?

J: The first thing I do is I help them to realize that they are valuable. And I talk about how you were created for a reason, I had a miscarriage between my son and my daughter, and my doctor told me that about 50% of pregnancies ended up in miscarriage. Then if you add abortion and things like that, it's even higher. And so I realized, he was telling me to help me feel better. But I realized when I started to write my book that I'm a health teacher, that you have all of these systems, all of these cells coming together to create a being. Wow, we are created. You did not just happen. You did not just crawl out of the rock. You were created for a very, very specific purpose. And I think that's the number one (8:57), the very bottom layer. It's the first big chunk in my book talking about how you're important and you have a purpose. And if we could, little kids know that, little kids aren't, they don't have problems and start comparing to other people that they start having a problem. (fillers) If we can just remind them, you're special, you're valuable and whatever you believe matters.

N: Awesome. (laughs) So tell me the name of the book or we've forgotten to talk about that.

J: (Laughing) The title is Bully Proofing You, Building the Confidence and Personal Value.

N: Wonderful. And where can people purchase the book?

J: At bullyproofingyou.com

N: And is that, you know, a hard cover or are we talking about an e-book version?

J: We're talking about, I have both. It will be available at Kindle and it will be the e-book or soft copy or the hard cover, whichever you prefer.

N: Wonderful. I also encourage you, what's the website again?

J: bullyproofingyou.com

N: Yes. Bullyproofingyou.com. And guys if you click on the banner on the side, you'll go straight to Jeanie's site from there as well. Jeanie, thank you so much for joining me today. I really appreciate the message that you are getting out to the world. And I really appreciate the fact that you really are filling your purpose and making a difference. So thank you so much for that.

J: Thank you, Natalie. I just want to say thank you for the work that you have done, for the Ultimate Success Masterclass, for mind movies - oh my goodness, they really helped me when I was scared to write. I would go watch my mind movie and it will help me move forward. Your tools have definitely helped me and my message. So thank you so much for that. I still appreciate it.

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